At the beginning of this year, I deleted Instagram from my phone. My husband and I watched a movie one night that really got me thinking about my priorities and where I was spending time and what things were distractions. I wondered if there were a sudden tragedy, would I regret how I’d been spending my time? The answer was yes, and I knew a change needed to be made. I deleted the app that night and was shocked when a week had gone by and I hadn’t even missed it. Months went by and although I missed some announcements here and there, and missed recording our daily happenings, I was just happier. I felt more connected to my kids, more connected to my husband and more connected to heaven. I was being more intentional about connecting with what really mattered. Things weren’t perfect, but it was a much-needed break for me. Around spring-time, my mom and a few other family members expressed how sad they were they didn’t see pictures of the kids anymore. I decided to open a separate Instagram account that would just be for my family and a couple of friends who lived far away.
There were several contributing factors to my decision to say goodbye to social media for a time, but one of them was my lack of feeling uplifted and more of feeling “less than”, unaccomplished, and battling the comparison game happening in my head. I really thought about what helped me feel uplifted and closer to heaven- what helped inspire me to be better and do more good. One of the friends who is always inspiring and uplifting and all-around wonderful is my friend Bethany. (You can find her at Weekday Bouquet!) She introduced me to the incredible Ralphie, of “Simply on Purpose”.
Ralphie is a beautiful light and force for good. She is a parenting “expert” in my opinion and although she may not consider herself such, she has inspired me to be more present, more peaceful and more purposeful- all in a simple way.
Here are Ralphie’s profound thoughts on gratitude-
“Gratitude to me means embracing all of the good and all of the bad. There is no gratitude without joy and there is no joy without struggle. I know we’d love to have our lives be always tidy and neat, but if we got rid of all the mss, we’d lose the darling mess makers too.
Being grateful for it all allows us to sit back and see each day for what it is- a delightful journey filled with growth and heavenly connection.”
Simple and profound. (Just how Ralphie is!) It perfectly encompasses the main idea of the following scriptures:
Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. -Ephesians 5:20
And they did admonish their brethren; and they were also admonished, every one by the word of God, according to his sins, or to the sins which he had committed, being commanded of God to pray without ceasing, and to give thanks in all things. -Mosiah 26:39
When we truly give thanks for all things, we experience greater light that helps us “see each day for what it is- a delightful journey filled with growth and heavenly connection.”
“Are you working to connect the dots, or to merely collect more dots?”
-Seth Godin, author of “What to Do When It’s Your Turn”
I often find myself scrambling around to “collect more dots” many days. How much happier we would be if we’d simply connect the dots we have by expressing gratitude for the good and the bad- embracing it all! I think we would find that the finished (connected dots) product is in fact “a delightful journey filled with growth and heavenly connection”.
Thank you, Ralphie, for your beautiful thoughts!
Find Ralphie on instagram @simplyonpurpose